Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss of your son. I don't know how I stumbled upon your story, your share, but this is immensely helpful, what you wrote. Last night I was with a friend and her kids with my kid who had lost her husband, their dad, to suicide. He was a soccer coach and when I brought up the World Cup to her kids, I almost mentioned their dad's name, but I held back. Afraid. How I wished I read your post right before!
First off, I'm so sorry to hear about Corey. And second, thank you for writing this. I don't know what it's like for a man to lose a son but I do know that nearly 6 years in, I desperately miss ANYONE asking about mine, or even mentioning his name anymore. I absolutely want to talk about it and yet I'm never bold enough to be the one who brings it up. 😕
Tim, thank you for opening my eyes to something I had been in denial to previously and did not want to upset someone who was experiencing deep pain. You, Sandy and Sean have been in my prayers since finding out. Glad for your family's being able to celebrate Corey's life and contributions and remembering him as you are.
There’s a strange amount of courage involved in asking a straightforward question. Not because the words are hard, but because the answer might rearrange the room.
I too am sorry for the loss of your son. I lost mine in February of 2023. I also lost my first wife in 2007. Both times, I remember the silence that came from my friends and some relatives immediately after their deaths. I believe part of the reason was that they didn’t know what to say or how to bring up the subject. I told those that did try to say something that I wanted to talk about it, that it was what my soul needed. I needed them to share their memories of the people that I loved. I wish you some degree of healing, although I know for a fact the hole in your heart can never heal.
I’m sorry to hear about your losses. Thx for sharing and about your experience. My sense is that people are fearful how we, the grieving, will feel, but they are also afraid how they will feel. Our society tries not to feel fear, sadness and shame. We try to push it away, but it doesn’t go away. It just comes out in other ways that we don’t intend. Thx again and take care
It can be hard to find the right words but asking awkwardly is still better than ignoring.
Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss of your son. I don't know how I stumbled upon your story, your share, but this is immensely helpful, what you wrote. Last night I was with a friend and her kids with my kid who had lost her husband, their dad, to suicide. He was a soccer coach and when I brought up the World Cup to her kids, I almost mentioned their dad's name, but I held back. Afraid. How I wished I read your post right before!
First off, I'm so sorry to hear about Corey. And second, thank you for writing this. I don't know what it's like for a man to lose a son but I do know that nearly 6 years in, I desperately miss ANYONE asking about mine, or even mentioning his name anymore. I absolutely want to talk about it and yet I'm never bold enough to be the one who brings it up. 😕
Tim, thank you for opening my eyes to something I had been in denial to previously and did not want to upset someone who was experiencing deep pain. You, Sandy and Sean have been in my prayers since finding out. Glad for your family's being able to celebrate Corey's life and contributions and remembering him as you are.
Tim thanks for this . Much appreciated
Well done, Tim. We should all send our hearts out on these excursions...
There’s a strange amount of courage involved in asking a straightforward question. Not because the words are hard, but because the answer might rearrange the room.
Thank you for sharing this.
“I have learned now that while those who speak about one’s grief usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.” — C.S. Lewis
I too am sorry for the loss of your son. I lost mine in February of 2023. I also lost my first wife in 2007. Both times, I remember the silence that came from my friends and some relatives immediately after their deaths. I believe part of the reason was that they didn’t know what to say or how to bring up the subject. I told those that did try to say something that I wanted to talk about it, that it was what my soul needed. I needed them to share their memories of the people that I loved. I wish you some degree of healing, although I know for a fact the hole in your heart can never heal.
Rick:
I’m sorry to hear about your losses. Thx for sharing and about your experience. My sense is that people are fearful how we, the grieving, will feel, but they are also afraid how they will feel. Our society tries not to feel fear, sadness and shame. We try to push it away, but it doesn’t go away. It just comes out in other ways that we don’t intend. Thx again and take care